Keeping & Maintaining your Real hair during harmattan

Yeah I know…I’ve never been one to write about hair or beauty matters but in the mood of the festive season, I decided to share my thoughts on hair maintenance cum product review. So this is what my hair length looks like now. I’ve not been the type to indulge in braiding, twists or weaves because I have a scalp that is quite sensitive to any nature of hair that’s not mine. So I end up with an hairstyle which only lasts for 2weeks before removing it.

Over the course of 10years, I’ve cut my hair thrice in the style below:

A lot of people have told me that it must be my genes that’s given me such fabulous hair. However I differ on that note cos I’m of the opinion that it’s due to the constant and consistent maintenance procedures I have adopted over the years that has been responsible for my hair growth consisting of the following but not limited:

  • Constant scalp massages
  • Steaming twice a month which has become a weekly routine now
  • Avoiding hair styles that pulls at my hairlines
  • Moisture, moisture and more moisture
  • Opting for sulfur & sulphate free shampoo & conditioner
  • Avoiding flat irons, blow dryers
  • Opting for protein treatment
  • Opting for wide tooth combs against tail combs
  • Learning to speak up at Naija salons on any perceived mis treatment of my hair (I don’t really care if the salon is Bobby’s or not as I’ve come to know that a lot of the stylists who work within these so called salons don’t know a fig about hair maintenance)
  • Dusting or trimming my hair myself instead of leaving it at the mercy of these ignorant stylists
  • Relaxing new growth 3 times in a year

One major change to my hair routine has also been the use of ‘Jamaican Black Castor Oil’.

I bought 2bottles for $13.09 each on Amazon and have used it consistently. Does it work? Sure it does. My hair has become denser and thicker since I commenced use. I have since ditched all my hair pomades. However please note that castor oil is thick and should be used sparingly on your scalp and to coat your hair ends which are exposed on a daily basis. If you’ve got receding hairlines, then it’s time to start using castor oil. It’s imperative that you use castor oil as an hot oil treatment during the harmattan season to avoid breakage and weak ends.

Compliments of the season peeps!

Banky W’s Note to us!!! Join the fight to a better Nigeria.

“Hell is empty, and all the devils are here.” – Shakespeare

First, please read the quote pasted above. Let the gravity of those words sink into your system. Then, if you haven’t already, and if you’re strong enough to stomach witnessing sheer and absolute horror, please click on the following link: http://www.anglicandioceseofjos.org/dogo.html 

There is no other quote that better describes the recent inhumane attacks in Jos, Nigeria. If “a picture is worth a thousand words”, then what do we say of pictures like these? It’s unimaginable. Each picture represents a horrific, gruesome murder. Innocent women, children (and men) were brutally ambushed, attacked, maimed and murdered worse than animals. It’s unthinkable that in 2010, after the world has gone through so much progress and development, some of us in Nigeria are still living like this. It’s heartbreaking to witness these events. It’s heart-wrenching to think of what happened on the morning of March 7th. It’s unfair and deplorable. It’s mind-numbingly sad, pathetic, and downright insane. 

But this is the Nigeria we live in. A country full of extremes. Extreme wealth and extreme poverty. Extreme Joy and extreme pain. It’s hard to imagine that this is the same Nigeria that just hosted the U-17 World cup; that just celebrated it’s 50th Year of Independence and boasts of some of the most expensive luxurious lifestyles in the world.

Nigeria is the most populous Black Nation in the world; it is also very much a melting pot. It is home to 250 to 400 different ethnic groups, and is almost evenly split amongst Muslims and Christians (not to mention various other traditional Religious Belief systems). However, while in some metropolitan areas of the world, vast diversity is generally a positive attribute, in Nigeria that diversity is ripping us apart. We are different, but that should be a strength.. not a disease. Instead of learning from each other we resort to fighting. Instead of maximizing our varying degrees of potential, we resort to killing each other.

How men can devise this kind of terrible plot is beyond me. News reports have put the death toll anywhere between 200 and 500 people. Probably More. Innocent lives snuffed out for absolutely ignorant, ridiculous reasons. Mothers and children. Families destroyed forever. All because of some ethnic disputes, disagreements over land, or even religious differences. What’s sad about occurrences like this is the fact that usually, there’s some underlying resentment towards policy, authority, Government or the powers that be. But instead of finding some other way to address these issues, people resort to killing other innocent (and probably-frustrated-as-well) human beings. Maybe you’re justifiably upset at the way things have been… is that reason enough to take the life of someone else who is innocent, and like you, probably just trying to get by in these harsh times? 

The worst thing about the Jos attacks is the fact that this is not the first time that we’ve witnessed such horror, and conventional wisdom says it won’t be the last. There’s a song on my last album called “Why”, where I tried in my very limited capacity to speak from the heart on situations affecting our Nigeria. I specifically mentioned “fighting in Jos, killing one another no remorse”. This song was created by Cobhams Asuquo and I over a year ago; I was inspired to write, when similar killings occurred and a friend of mine lost 2 immediate family members. Little did we know that the song would prove to not only be an account of times past, but a prophecy of things to come as we are now witnessing the same evil history repeat itself. 

My heart aches for those that lost their lives in Jos and for the families that mourn them. My heart aches for the present state of Nigeria. My heart aches for the future of Nigeria, but it shouldn’t have to. I once read that the definition of Insanity is repeating the same actions over and over, while expecting a different result. We are all frustrated with the political and economical climate in Nigeria. We all complain and we are quick to point out everything that has been so wrong for so many years, and rightfully so, because it’s just pathetic. But if we decide as a generation to do nothing about it; if we decide to turn a blind eye and ignore the need for change, then our future generations will inherit the EXACT same issues. And that will mean that we have failed them. 

We all witnessed the inauguration of President Barack Obama in the not too distant past. The whole world watched in awe, as America, once the chief criminal in slave trade, voted in its first Black President. We all know the U.S.A. still has issues its dealing with, but President Obama’s swearing-in is a day that will forever go down in history as a day that changed America. Prior to Obama becoming Commander-in-Chief, most people thought that there would never be a Black Man voted in as President of the USA. Prior to Malcolm X, Martin Luther King and co, most people thought black people would never be able to vote in America and that Segregation would never be demolished. I put it to you that we CAN change Nigeria’s future, using similar formulas. Obama became President largely because the younger generations (and those young at heart) decided to exercise their God-given rights by voting for change. We can do the same here in Naija. 

Change does not happen overnight… Some will recall that in the USA in 1994 there was a revolution of sorts, but partly due to somewhat dubious circumstances (Florida, etc), the Bush Regime lasted an additional four years. We are used to Politicians in Nigeria treating Power as a birthright and votes not counting, despite our calling it a democracy. But in the same breath, how many of us actually turn out to vote? 2011 might be the year that changes our country forever. We may or may not succeed in toppling the “birthright-mindset” of our leaders immediately, but we MUST, in the very least, get the ball rolling. We the (young) people must decide that we are fed up of the nonsense we’ve seen for years and vow to change things. 

We still have no constant power supply. We must vow to do everything within our power to get our government to #lightupnigeria. We have leaders that are complacent and corrupt. We must vow to register-to-vote and to actually vote. We can, possibly, abruptly change and take charge of the future of Nigeria in the 2011 elections. Or in the very least we can IMPACT it so that it never stays the same. We are fortunate enough to not have to deal with any Natural Disasters, like the recent earthquakes in Haiti, or the Tsunamis in Asia. It’s time for us to stop BEING the disasters, and to start being part of the solutions. I will be one of many young people completely devoted to bringing about change in this country because I believe we deserve it and it’s long overdue. I hope you will too. 

Lastly, my heart still bleeds for Jos. I will never claim to be an expert on the problems that the region is dealing with, or the solutions. I do know however that we must all decide to collectively be a part of the change we all desperately hope for and deserve. May those who died Rest In Peace. May their deaths not be in Vain. May Peace reign in all parts of Nigeria and Africa. And lastly… May Change Come. Enough is enough.

~ B.W.

Now that Jonathan has taken over…

What next for our future as Nigerians? Why are we bedeviled with bad leadership on the African continent? Did you happen to watch Aonodakaa’s interview with Christianne Amanpour on CNN? It was embarrassing to say the least. When asked if it was normal for a president to be absent from his country for more than 60days, he had stated that there was nothing abnormal about the situation.

Now that the Vice President has been sworn in as Acting President, I hope things will better. Notice that I do not use the word ‘pray’. I’m not against praying, I think we have prayed too long and God would pretty much appreciate if we dust off our asses and get to work by becoming an advocate of ‘No More Mess’ in this country.

Impressionable!

I would like to start by wishing readers of this blog ‘Merry Christmas and a Prosperous New Year’. I would also like to doff my hats to the hardworking men of the Lagos State Fire Service and Governor Fashola. As I was leaving for Ibadan yesterday, along Ikorodu Road, Obanikoro to be precise, a commuter bus caught fire, and you needed to have seen these fire fighting officers, battling to put out the fire. For the very first time, I saw a fully equipped fire force and water, oh yes! WATER was gushing out with full force, enough to extinguish the near disaster that could have occurred.

Events like this keeps my hope alive for a better Nigeria. No one can save this country except we all join forces and decide to put a stop to the madness that occurs around us on a daily basis.

It’s bad enough that we’re rated as a nation of fraudsters but adding terrorists to our ever growing list of negative perceptions is just appalling. I finally settled down to read the news about that Nigeria young man who decided to blow up a plane heading to Detroit. For the first time, I saw his picture. I mean, he’s so young, innocent, naive and can’t be more than 20years from what I saw.
How did he become involved in things like terrorism? What the heck was he thinking? A shot at 5minute fame or a chance at PlayStation reality game show? I wonder how a promising young man could have allowed himself to be used for something sinister. If you’re thinking his motive was money, it was not cos according to newspaper reports, he’s from a wealthy family and attended some of the best schools in Africa. Learnt his father is the chairman of First Bank of Nigeria.

We live in an information age where there is free access to all kinds of information (beneficial and non-beneficial). As parents, we need to be more involved in our childrens lives so that we can impart the right information. In today’s world, I’m not a big supporter of sending children to boarding schools where they can be influenced by wrong elements. This type of outlandish behaviour did not erupt suddenly, it started way back in school. If his parents had taken enough care to monitor him, they would have nipped it in the bud before this national disgrace happened. From experience, money is not everything.

Love, care and proper attention are what our children require to become responsible and law abiding citizens of any nation. It’s so sad and it simply breaks my heart cos I believe he was trying to get the attention of his parents but he chose the wrong route.