Cliquey

lady boss taking charge at work avoiding cliques.
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Clique

nnoun: clique; plural noun: cliques

  1. a small close-knit group of people who do not readily allow others to join them.”his flat became a haven for a clique of young men of similar tastes”synonyms:coterie, circle, inner circle, crowd, in-crowd, set, group

The one thing I have avoided over the course of my career within the workplace is ‘Cliques’. No matter the form or shape it announces itself in, I stick up my middle finger in its’ face, and own the spot I occupy. This dark form of nepotism, destroys the soul and culture within the workplace. I do not think highly of people who belong to ‘Cliques’ as it tells me you have subjugated your individuality for the common individuality of a group.

How boring and utterly stupid? Thinking from a common point of view gets you nowhere on the career ladder. You must learn to stand alone and own your thoughts, irrespective of whether you’ve got supporters or not. Don’t imagine this exists within Naija alone. No! Its’ a global affliction and I have seen this operate everywhere, while working in Dubai and other places.

Belonging to a clique will dumb you down and take you along a narcissistic path, where you will lose all forms of creativity and wit to aid you in your career. That is, if you eventually end up having a meaningful one without spending your days, licking asses up and down (this is the bane of most Nigerian men in the workplace. So timid and always agreeing with every dumb ideas or words, that comes out of their bosses mouth, without taking a moment to think and reflect). It pisses me off completely. Miss me with the B.S.

Rather, choose to be different. Yeah, you might be hated, called weird names, hey sugar, deal with it. How have i dealt with this negative phenomenon?

In my unit, we ain’t got time for ‘Cliques’. Once I notice there is a cliquey thingy going on, I break it up immediately by assigning each person an onerous, individual task that takes a month to deliver. It works like a charm. Since they are so busy with meeting deadlines, each day is filled with heavy grunts and lots of silent thinking.

I love that especially when your unit has been noticed as the only unit, where employees do not dwadle or gossip, you know you are building the right culture.

What’s Next?

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I have been thinking of closing this blog down since life and other stuffs have finally caught up with me. I thought I would rather transition this blog to a podcast. After thinking about it, I thought to myself, “Jan, why don’t you do a pivot with this blog, by sharing some of the steps you have taken in the corporate world to get to where you are today?

Yeap, you guessed right, I will be using this year to share my nuggets of wisdom on navigating the corporate ladder. Note of warning: my approach is quite brutal and mafioso. I am not a wallflower when it comes to the workplace and I always take no prisoners alive.

So if you are not comfortable with being hated, gossiped about in the workplace, feared and respected for the values you bring into the workplace, then this might not be for you. However, if you are comfortable with being hated, and can use that negative emotion to propel you on the career ladder, you are welcome on this ride, however nerve wracking it might be.

I will share how I have orchestrated my career working with expats and locals. If you’ve got organizational challenges in your current workplace, shoot me a email (your current employer/organization should be denoted “All Way na Way”). I will try to point you to a conclusive option. The actual work lies with you.

Welcome once more!

Migration

Hello Ladies,

It’s been a while. I’d like to inform you all that this blog will be migrating to a new platform by Saturday. A warm hug goes to all the incredible ladies I have met over the years while running this blog.

Change is good and it’ll only get better. I’ve set up a new home for this blog and you can visit us by clicking here or here. We’re still available to attend to all orders tat come in through this blog but you can catch up with me on all news relating to hair matters and other stuffs as well.

Thanks a lot.

Jan

Follow up Treatment@Hair Elite Salon

Today, I was scheduled for a second appointment with Stevid and ran late. Once I got there, we got started right away by washing my hair. The washing experience at this salon is extravagant as they usually take out time to massage your scalp thoroughly. Furthermore, they finger comb to detangle. No combs are used while your hair is wet.
My sister and I settled for the Mizani strengthening treatment to prevent breakage.

She had to undergo some scalp treatment which she had issues with. Since I didn’t have any of that, my hair was washed and deep conditioned with the Mizani strengthening treatment (protein treatment). The stylist proceeded to apply Chi Silk Infusion to my hair before blow drying.  These comb attachments are the truth as they straighten the heck out of your hair. Once we were done, she divided my hair into sections and sprayed it lightly with a holding mist before rolling it up.

I sat under the dryer for 30minutes and once my hair was dry, Stevie went ahead and finger combed it since I wanted lots of volume. She recommended I pin curl my hair in 8 sections at night when going to bed and simply finger comb once I take it down the following morning. My sister was shortly done as well and these are the results.

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That’s a protective style she’s got on which she’ll keep for a week before taking it down. We settled down to talk before her next client came in and due to previous assessment she’d made earlier, new products were recommended. I’ve seen this product work on my sister’s hair so I’m really glad to try it out.

Basically what she’s recommended is to incorporate the 100 stroke brushing for my hair 3 times weekly, using the paddle brush below. The leave in conditioner she’s recommended does not require me to seal with oil as its a creamy lotion and quite rich. When it’s applied to my hair, it completely sinks in immediately and using the paddlebrush is easy, breezy. Hair remains moisturized for 5 straight days. What do you look out for when buying a paddle brush? You make sure it’s open like a comb and soft as that’ll prevent breakage and spit ends as well.

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The brush is soft and opens up without snagging your hair. I’ll put up a demo next week using the leave in conditioners she recommended.

Hair Elite Salon Review

My go to resource for hair care while on vacation has always been ‘Yelp.com’. Depending on the city I’m traveling to, I always go online to search for salons specializing in healthy hair care and read up on client’s review as well. Yelp is a great resource for obtaining down to earth, honest reviews. While planning this trip, I had settled for 2 salons basically Hair Elite & ReviveSpa. I had booked an appointment with both salons informing them about my hair needs since I was planning on a relaxer touch up session.

ReviveSpa later communicated via email that the salon was closed for renovation. I had to go with Hair Elite. My sister had informed me about a lady in their church who had lush, healthy waist length hair. She had asked this lady where she got her hair done and the lady kept mentioning ‘Stevie’. Imagine my delight when we discovered that Stevie owned ‘Hair Elite’.
Yesterday, we finally set off for her salon after confirming our appointment. I had branched at one of this Spaniard grocery store to purchase ORS Relaxer kit.

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Stevie is the lady on the extreme right wearing the pink top and white bottoms. She was easy to talk to and listened attentively as we discussed my regimen. I told her I brought my relaxer since I observed she only uses Mizani products in her salon. She asked which relaxer I was using and I responded “ORS”. She stated I made the right choice for my fine strands and we were good to go. She spent close to 40mins applying a cream base to my scalp in tiny sections to prevent scalp burns. She did this repeatedly till she was satisfied my scalp and new growth was coated adequately. I was surprised to see that the relaxer was only applied to the 2.5inches of new growth I had.

Then she combed the new growth only once and we were off to rinse the relaxer out. After rinsing out the relaxer, she proceeded to apply a Mizani conditioner (can’t remember which one now) to the newly relaxed growth and we waited for 5minutes only before rinsing out. She explained that the conditioner will restore the moisture stripped by the relaxer.

She proceeded to use the neutralizing shampoo before deep conditioning. The blow drying experience was smooth and in no time my hair was straightened out. After examining my hair and discussing the products I was using, she made some changes and suggestions. Then I told her to cut my hair since we were trying out her own regimen for the next 30days (I’ll discuss this in my upcoming post). She cut it into a layered bob where the sides are much longer and the back is shorter. I called it the ‘C’ bob. Consultation and trimming is free for first time visitors and I only spent $45.00 for a 2hour session.

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Hair Elite is located on 13420 Hawthorne Road, California and her website is http://www.stevidhair.com.